On Becoming an Adult

First order of business, separate Yourself from your Parents.

Your mom is just a person, and your dad is just a person. They are no longer your parents. They are your peers. Next, evaluate them as the plain ole’ person they are (since you are now peer-level with them now). What do they exemplify? Strengths, weakness, personality? Match their age with your age — see them as close to your age and evaluate how you feel about them. I guarantee you will cut them some slack on your judgement meter (to them of course). Moving along, we need to get rid of any baggage you have accumulated from your parents up until this reading point. Forgive your mom and dad by realizing they did the best to their capability to love you. Even if any of their actions and behaviors point to no love, look at it from the standpoint as another human who made mistakes, and separate yourself from your idea of what you feel like a loving mother or father should act like.

’Cause in the end, we do not have the right to say how our parents should have acted like…especially if they did their best. This does include parents who were nearly absent or neglected you for the majority of your childhood. Even they tried their best. Release your resentments by identifying them, acknowledging them, and telling them they are no longer relevant.

You should be feeling lighter, stronger, but slightly afraid as if your were a poor fawn left in the cold.

Still feel a heavy lugg of attachment dangling from your shoulder? We could further purify with this: imagine yourself as a parent. I highly doubt it feels like you are invincible and will make no mistakes. So, no need to think your parents should be of this impossibly high standard. This is the truth of it.

I understand this process can hurt — but I’m sure this experience will give you strengths that wouldn’t have otherwise come to fruition without.

It is not easily releasing deep rooted beliefs, but the unnecessary attachments have got to go.

To conclude, I recommend finding a creative passion to be used as an outlet and used as a tool to direct the intense emotion of releasing resentments into the act of creating with lazer beam focus into creating.